How to Decide Your better half in few minutes of meeting

 |   Nisha Gopalakrishnan

One of the important skill requirement for the 21st century is decision-making skill. Decision making is not only necessary for your career but also determines your personal life path. How often do you make decisions based on Intuitive thinking? Life is all about choices. The life path depends on the choices you make. Decision-making skills help in choosing the right option which is either based on facts or intuition.


Imagine that you are part of your company’s hiring team and have been asked to hire a person for your team. Some of the qualities that the industry is looking for in the new hire are honest, hard working and open to new ideas, etc. You have been given two options:

  1. Spend some time every week with the candidate for about a month and then take the decision.
  2. Spend half an hour interviewing the candidate and take the decision.

Which one do you prefer? For many of us, the obvious choice would be option 1. Spending more time with the candidate helps in evaluating whether the person fits the requirements.

But, do you get that long a time to decide? The only option available in many of the corporates is option 2. In a short time, a decision needs to make, and we most likely rely on our intuitive thinking. Some people prefer to call it gut feeling. All of us make decisions based on Intuitive thinking as well as rational thinking.

Our brain records all the events which happen around us; every meeting and what is discussed, the client interactions, their face, and attitude. All these impressions form our conscience without our knowledge. Intuition is a decision that bubbles up from our unconscious mind called as conscience. The evidence or facts which support the decision is buried deep inside the unconscious mind.

In countries like India, people are forced to choose their life partner within the 30 minutes of meeting (in some cases just seeing!). What would you do if your intuitive thinking is bad? Unconscious impressions of people’s faces we meet in our life and their attitude are stored without the involvement of the conscious mind. These patterns form a decision support system in our unconscious mind, which guides us through the times which require rapid cognition and decision making.

Most often you would have heard and read articles which discuss intuitive thinking and rational thinking. These materials tend to conclude mostly that rational and intuitive thinking are often in a state of conflict. If I look at each thought process individually, I would perhaps like all articles to end up with a similar conclusion. Rational thinking is thinking logically, structured and which takes into account the established fact. Intuitive thinking is a feeling or a sense which does not use facts or data.

Now, what if I tell you that it is rational thought process applied over years makes you more intuitive?

The human brain is divided into two halves. The left hemisphere and the right hemisphere processes the information differently. The left hemisphere is more analytical and rational, and the right hemisphere is intuitive and visual. The intuitive thinking is often termed instantaneous, irrational, lacked credibility and biased by one’s emotions. Rational thinking involves a stepwise analysis of relevant factors and consequences. Since reasoning is the highlight of the logical thinking, it is often considered more reliable.

Let us examine the examples from my previous blog post on Mastery; traveling from work to home or being an exceptional basketball player, all started as a rational thought process. While traveling back, I had to know which bus to board, where to switch buses, at which stop to get off and which are the best routes to be taken. All of which required quick thinking, reasoning and arriving at the conclusion. Through practice and repetition, I intuitively knew how to get to home from work.

Bill Bradley American Hall of Fame basketball player, analyzed his shortcomings, devised his training regimen which was attuned to overcome his lack of skills requires to play Basket Ball. Bill Bradley became a Hall of Famer, who instinctively knew his opponent’s game and strategized to win the game.

He’s the Rhodes Scholar who became an Olympic Gold Medalist. The power forward for the NBA Champion New York Knicks who became a US Senator and a presidential candidate. He’s not just the overachiever who followed a predetermined path laid out for him. In most cases, he followed his intuition and went against the grain, doing what he believed he would enjoy and therefore, what he would excel at. And it worked! read more at


Bill Bradley became more intuitive or automatic over the course of time as a result of his learning through his training, practice and exposure to the games he played. His reactions and judgments in the court seemed automatic and appropriate! A person applying the rational thought process would have arrived at the same decision while analyzing the overall game.

Though, Intuitive thinking is considered as an unconscious thinking, If coupled with life experiences, practice and information assimilated which gets stored in the mnemonic networks in the brain, it can prove to be powerful.

The intuitive mind is a sacred gift, and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.
- Albert Einstein

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